Girl Crush Confessions and Why Women Need Other Women

The lady gloves came off this week when three female runners got together for an epic chat on all things personal and racy. Wine-fueled confessions of their dirty little secrets made you feel like you were a fly on the wall during an episode of Sex in the City on steroids. Or morphine, in the case of Kate Kift.

It was story after story of things these ladies had never previously disclosed. Man crushes, drugs and alcohol, and dancing for money were all confessed. You can listen to the whole spectacle over at Run Barefoot Girl, and don’t say I didn’t warn you:

The Podcast That Got Out of Control

A few hours later, I was still smiling and I thought about something Caity mentioned about not apologizing for being sexual or racy. There’s something beautiful about women speaking openly to each other – and to the world.

I grew up in a world where women were bitches, and all my friends were male. The women had hidden agendas. They were two-faced, cruel, and mean-spirited.

I never had that female best friend with whom I could be completely open and honest. Until recently, I thought that girls generally sucked and it was a waste of time to try to be friends with them.

When I moved to San Diego, I met people like Shelly Robillard and Caity McCardell who were easy to talk to and a blast to hang out with. It was a new experience.

I realized the one quality that all the insufferable bitches had in common was low self esteem. They were convinced that their female “friends” were better than them, prettier than them, making them look bad, or trying to steal their man. There was a lot of aggression and back-stabbing and dark intentions.

But to find a strong woman who is confident and comfortable in her own skin is truly special. Good times can be had with her.

This week I also watched the Jenna Marbles video on Girl Crushes, and I would like to propose this topic for Caity’s sequel, should these girls ever come together again.

Here is the video:

Direct YouTube link HERE.

To get things rolling and to be fair, I’ll make some girl crush confessions of my own. I do agree with Caity that things would be better if women were less prudish and a little more like Krista (careful, not too much).

According to Marbles’ highly reliable scientific research, every woman has girl crushes. And there are three levels of girl crush:

1. I want to hang out with you and be your best friend. This is someone you really like and admire.

2. I want to be you. This is someone you think is drop-dead perfect and you would love to have her features and lifestyle.

3. I would make a scissor sandwich with you. This is someone who, given the right circumstances, you could potentially do.

I made my own list:


  • Caity McCardell – Earth mama! She has such a dynamic, nurturing, and attractive personality
  • Maria Walton – Truly special lady. I am in awe of her.


I really like being myself, so this list isn’t super long 🙂


  • Shakira – As far as I’m concerned, the most perfect woman ever created
  • Beyonce – No brainer
  • Norah Jones – And I’d make her sing throughout

And a few more sexy lady runners that could fit one or more levels:

There may be others I’m forgetting. Interestingly, my list was mostly based on personality combined with looks. Of course, the trick to making a doable list is always making sure nothing ruins the friendship.

All said and done, I’ve learned a lot this year about the importance of having quality women in your life, and I’m so grateful for all the friendships I have. Women are unique in their potential to be free-spirited, bubbly, and have pillow fights in their panties. Girls rule.

Who are your girl crushes?


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